On Wednesday, in the Year 8 Boys’ Philosophy class, we finished the lesson with a discussion about what constitutes gentlemanly conduct. The source material for this conversation was a piece by John Henry Newman, who was a 19th century Oxford academic. It is an extract from his foundational book entitled The Idea of a University, defining the concept of a universal education. The opening line of the section we looked at states, ‘It is almost a definition of a gentleman to say he is one who never inflicts pain.’ The book later states, ‘The true gentleman in like manner carefully avoids whatever may cause a jar or jolt in the minds of those with whom he is cast.’
What was most interesting was the response of the boys. They sat upright, their eyes brightened and they were keen to hear more. It was obvious that being presented with a description of manhood at its finest level was appealing and something they really wanted to know about. Afterwards, I was asked for copies. This took me by surprise, as the language is old fashioned, having been written more than 150 years ago.
At its heart, this is about learning to understand and respect other people. It requires us to recognise that our words and actions have consequences. In a world where opinions can be expressed quickly and strongly, young people need to learn that strength is not found in carelessness or force, but in self-awareness, respect and understanding.
This is one reason why what we teach at Ficino School is so important. Through philosophy, literature and the study of history, myth and culture, students learn to approach others with interest rather than assumption, and with tolerance rather than prejudice. They learn that genuine understanding begins with a willingness to listen and to see beyond their own immediate experience.
The enthusiasm shown by the boys during that discussion was a reminder that young people are not only interested in academic knowledge. They are also searching for examples of how to live well and how to relate to others. When presented with high ideals and noble examples, they often respond positively. Their reaction suggests that the desire to become a better person is not old fashioned at all. It is timeless.
Peter Crompton, Principal
